Rebecca's Ponderings

March 15, 2011

The secret is out… We’re expecting!

Filed under: Growing in Christ,Parenting — Rebecca @ 4:15 pm

Yes, you read that correctly. We are preparing to welcome a new child into our family – from Russia! Most of our friends know that we have always planned to adopt. Well, we are now moving forward with those plans. We are currently working to complete our home study. We do not have a referral yet, nor do we have travel dates. The absolute earliest we would be able to bring home our child would be this summer, but it all depends upon the Russian and American governments. It could be much longer.

To get all the details about why now, why Russia, how to pray for us, and where we are in this process, please check out our adoption blog: iwillcome2you. We also created a Facebook page by the same name. We deeply appreciate your prayers and support and look forward to sharing the adventures of this journey with you.


February 17, 2011


Filed under: Growing in Christ,Home Education — Rebecca @ 8:53 pm
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We were at our local library yesterday for a book-club meeting. My daughter brought a lady to me who had questions about our homeschool co-op.

The woman was a very kind grandmother whose eleven-year-old granddaughter was a first year homeschool student. The lady explained that while she was most definitely an extrovert, her daughter (the girl’s mother) was an introvert. She was extremely concerned that since they began homeschooling this year, the granddaughter seemed to have very few friends. In addition, her daughter seemed uninterested in joining any groups. The only friends the girl had were some neighbors who were members of our co-op.

We talked about the co-op and what we do. We talked about how some people prefer to have many friends, while others only want one close friend. She understood that. I also explained my own hesitations about joining any groups when we first began homeschooling: I needed to focus on learning to teach. It seemed to allay her fears a little.

As we talked, she revealed that the granddaughter was in a dance class. I mentioned that the girl would have opportunities to make friends there. That was when she said, “But she doesn’t see them every day!”

My response took her by surprise. I said, “That is a good thing.” As she took a step backward, I quickly explained that I had to learn friendship skills after I graduated. Seeing people every day made me lazy. I was totally unprepared for maintaining relationships outside of school or a job. True friendships take effort. That is a valuable lesson to learn at eleven.

I think I may have scared the woman. Had I thought about it, I would have worded things differently, asking more questions. I might have asked about using her extrovert skills to coach her granddaughter on developing strong friendships. Hindsight is 20/20. Still, I pray that maybe she will view things a little differently.

I know that I do. As we recently started attending a different church, I was reminded how much we take for granted when we see our friends every week. It has made me more determined to work at all of my relationships. I still have a lot to learn. Thankfully, God has placed some very patient people in my life who inspire and instruct me toward true friendship every day.

October 4, 2010


Filed under: Growing in Christ,Life — Rebecca @ 10:39 pm
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My Current Mental State

Fall is a season of transition; it is especially so for our family this year. First, the Holy Spirit prompted us to step back from several ministries at our church, and we are unsure where He is leading. Then, my husband’s business picked up, and he is now able to consider hiring employees. The kids developed some new food sensitivities, so I am exploring further dietary changes. To top it off, the walls of our house were in serious disrepair, so I must choose colors and prepare our rooms for painting.

I realize that each of these transitions will bring beautiful results, yet the process is very stressful for me. This picture of our living room is an accurate metaphor for my entire life right now. It is chaotic. I cannot find my kitchen counters. All of our books, including our homeschool curriculum, are stacked haphazardly on the floor. The light switches are exposed. The computer, DVD player, TV, and other equipment are disconnected and strewn about the house. We are cleaning dust from the walls behind the bookcase and refrigerator. I am nervous about whether the colors we chose will actually look good. Like the trees, we are casting off belongings which were once essential, yet are now burdensome.

So, I pray for wisdom and discernment for this season of change. I slowly gain hope as I start to see our home become less cluttered and more colorful, bit-by-bit, room-by-room. I get excited when I introduce one new, healthful dish – and the kids actually like it! I enjoy the snippets of extra time with my husband as he brings in temporary help, praying that God will continue to provide new contracts to keep them busy into the new year. And, I find rest in the Lord as he fills the deep, spiritual needs that I had not even recognized. Fall is truly beautiful.

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